Asking for help

I have come to realize that I have a hard time accepting offers of help-whether that be at work, at home, from friends. When Lucas first came home, my mother and sister in law both came over a few times to help me. I was lost-I didn't know how to give them something to do. Did I really want them to do our laundry? Was it fair to have them care for my newborn son while I took a nap? I ended up trying to serve as a hostess, tending to their needs, while trying to keep the house neat and Lucas content. No wonder I had such anxiety and ended up with dangerously low blood sugars. I wasn't taking care of myself. Even when my mom came down for almost a week, we spent more time in the living room with her watching TV or doing her crosswords while I danced around with my chores.

If there are any new moms reading this, please know it is OK to take the help that is offered. It is OK to ask someone to watch your child while you take a nap or help you with the dishes. I think I would have been much more mentally and physically healthier if I had just taken the help.